Last week I went to my 25-year high-school reunion. How can that be? Most days I still feel about 12.
Leading up to the reunion I chatted with my present-day friends, and was surprised that many of them dreaded the thought. Why?
I got fat, said one.
I wouldn’t know what to say to them, said another.
But I think secretly they’d love to catch up with old cronies, or at least to catch up with their own younger self.
As it turned out, I had a lovely time at my reunion, and I thought it would be a shame if others missed out because of self-doubt.
So here are some dos and don’ts for surviving a high-school reunion – with a little class, dignity and sense of fun.
Dos and Don’ts for Surviving a High-School Reunion
Don’t test-drive a new outfit
Wear something you’ve worn before that looks and feels good. That way, you’ll be able to relax and focus on the people rather than the outfit.
Do dress smart-casual (unless another dress code is specified)
Under-dress and you’ll feel intimidated; over-dress and you’ll feel conspicuous; sexy-dress and you’ll feel uncomfortable. This is an occasion that calls for baby-bear-ing it. If in doubt, opt for jeans, heels and a flattering top.
When you’re asked what’s been happening, don’t recount in detail your various health, financial and family woes. Stick to the basic highlights. And keep it light. Save the angst-ridden analysis for your friends. Or therapy.
Do be generous with compliments
If you notice something great about someone, tell them. What they’re wearing, how they look, what they’ve achieved, how sweet they still are – let them know you appreciate it. It will make you both feel good.
Don’t drink too much
Excess alcohol plus nostalgia can equal a morose mood. Alternate drinks with water or soda.
Do get into the spirit
Let yourself enjoy the memories, music and mutual amazement that you all look the same (you will, to each other). Take the opportunity to get to know people all over again. Who knows – you might even make some new, old friends.
[Image: by DoctorWho]